Narrated Anas (radi Allahu anhu): Haritha was martyred on the day (of the battle) of Badr while he was young. His mother came to the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) saying, “O Allah’s Messenger! You know the relation of Haritha to me (how fond of him I was); if he is in Paradise, I will remain patient and wish for Allah’s Reward, but if he is not there, then you will see what I will do.” The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) replied, “May Allah be Merciful upon you! Have you gone mad? (Do you think) it is only one Paradise? There are many Paradises, and he is in the (most superior) Paradise of Al-Firdaus.” [Sahih Bukhari]
We see that Umm Haritha asks before she allows herself to cry: If her son has attained Paradise then the pain of his loss can be borne patiently and she will hold back her tears. The thought of her sons’ ultimate success can compensate her immense sense of loss over his death. But if that is not the case, she shall grieve this real loss.
How petty and worthless our worries are in comparison with those of the Sahabah and Sahabiyat. Yet how much time and energy we waste crying over them. They knew the worth of tears. They never shed them in vain.
Source: Hadith App.
May Allah have mercy on our mother, Umm Haritha and unite her and her son together in the highest jannah. May Allah give us mothers like Umm Haritha and sons like Haritha. رَّضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمْ
Ya Allah, make my worries, the worries of the Prophet. Make my concerns, the concerns of the Prophet. Make my happiness and my saddness identical to that of our Nabi, Salallahu ‘alayhi wasallam.