Ramadan Reminders

Salamualaykum,

With Ramadan right around the corner, I wanted to share my notes from Sh. Muhammad Al Shareef’s productive Ramadan webinar a couple years ago. It’s super long but super beneficial inshaAllah :)

“Oh you who believe! Fasting is prescribed to you as it was prescribed to those before you, that you may learn piety and rightousness” (Qur’an, al-Baqarah, 2:183)

Bismillah…

Set your destination! You don’t go to the airport without knowing where you are going. Focus on what you want to get out of Ramadan and know your destination.

  • Make du’a during Iftar time. Eat a date and make du’a, don’t get caught up with the food or excessive talking. Make that same dua throughout and it will be answered bi’ithnillah azzawajal, as Allah has promised in the Quran.
  • Think about what the Imam does every day. During the day, the Imam has to review Qur’an. He can’t possibly ‘wing it’…so there’s this massive emphasis on reviewing Qur’an throughout the day. The Imam stays in the Masjid after Fajr for about 2 hours reciting and reviewing. He also does not go around to dinner parties. We on the other go around, touring dinner parties which inevitably take us away from our ‘ibadah. Every now and then, an Iftar party is nice but eating should not be our main focus.
  • Shahrul it’aam became Shahrul ta’aam. Ramadan went from being the month of feeding to the month of eating. Make a habbit of donating to some charity each and every day, even if it’s one dollar. Feed the poor and the homeless. Feed Muslims and Non-Muslims alike…and while you’re at it, give da’wah. This is a great time to invite people to Islam. And if you cannot afford the donation, then know that smiling in the face of your Muslim brother is charity. Do anything with sincerity and it will be accepted bi’ithnillah.
  • Most of the people that go to the dinner/iftar parties end up overeating, making it difficult for them to pray Tarawih and stay up for Qiyam-ul-lail. And before you know it, the excuses take over and Ramadan flies by.
  • Rasulullah (S) did itikaaf (absolute seclusion) for 10 days! Let’s make the intention to do itikaaf for the sake of Allah for at least one day.
  • On the first day of Ramadan, the Masjid is full. By the middle, the number of people cut down significantly. And then all of a sudden, everyone shows up again at the end. Be there all throughout the journey InshAllah. :) (because that’s where the most reward lies)
  • Try to make sure that when you look back at this Ramadan in the future, you feel like you made a difference in your life that will STICK WITH YOU for life InshAllah. Do something OUT of your comfort zone and InshAllah, it will transform you.
  • Try to cry every single day. This basically means that we should make an extra effort to know Allah azzawajal, His Greatness, His Majestly, and His favors upon us. Out of all the people in this dunya, Allah chose YOU to be a Muslim. When we realize this, it’s almost impossible not to be overwhelmed and completely imbued in the thought of standing before Him on Yaum ul Qiyamah.
  • Think about how the Sahabah (may Allah be pleased with them) spent their Ramadan. Think of all the righteous people and how they spent their days. Add some of their characteristics into your Ramadan and your commitments for this months InshAllah.
  • Wake up for Suhoor and not just eat, but eat something healthy. What happens when we don’t wake up for suhoor is that our fasting basically begins from the time we hit the bed, and all that causes is more weakness and fatigue throughout the day and then the cycle continues.
  • Rather than sleep throughout the day and practically watch the day go by till Iftar time, continue with your regular daily activities. If you think you can’t do it, take a moment to look into the Sahaba’s lives. Many of them would be fasting during battles and some of them would fast continuously. Especially for those of you who work out regularly, don’t stop doing so, maybe just cut down a little so you’re not burnt out.
  • *Really Important* During Iftar time when everyone’s getting their plates ready, use a tea saucer plate, you know the small plates you put under a tea cup…yea. those. Try to fit whatever you can for iftar on that plate and nothing more. Then after Maghrib, or actually after Tarawih (since you can use the time between Maghrib and Isha to read a juz of the Qur’an), come home and eat in the regular sized plate. :) Try this once InshAllah, and it will become easy. This reminds me of a joke by Shaykh Yaser Birjas, he said that during Tarawih, you can tell what people had for Iftar when they are standing next to you in Salaah….which makes it difficult for the others in the Masjid. lol
  • Read at least one juz of Qur’an every day. It may seem like too much at first but inshaAllah, if you read consistently, it becomes much easier. Start reading a juz a day a few weeks before Ramadan (now) to get in the habit but once Ramadan begins, start from Juz 1. Have a reading buddy or compete with your friends and family to finish the Qur’an by the end of month. Works for me everytime
  • Drink LOTSSSSS of WATER when you’re not fasting. Hydrate yourself. This is obvious but most people forget.
  • Go to sleep after Tarawih so that you can get up for Suhoor. This way, you’ll be able to save your energy for the last 10 days InshAllah, when it’s really silly for someone to be sleeping at night rather than praying.
  • Purify your Intention. Again and Again and Again. What do you want to get out of this Ramadan? Who are you doing all this for? What is your ultimate goal? Jannah of course. :)
  • Write out your Ramadan Goals: What is it you want to do this month that will change you? Some examples: Quran Memorization goals, Mend relationships with people, Pray Tarawih all 30 days, For brothers–making prayer in Jama’ah more often , Itikaaf, Qiyam ul Lail, Intention to wake up for suhoor every day, TV go bye bye?, Cut down on FB–it’ll still be there after Ramadan, etc. etc.
  • Make a du’a list. At least 30 or more. Don’t focus on whether you can do it or not, rather Focus on the Power of Allah (swa) to guide you to doing these things. Sincerely ask Allah to bless you with the best in this life and the next. According to a hadith: Either you will get what you asked for, or you will get something better than what you asked for, or Allah will protect you from something harmful….or all this reward will be piled up for you in the akhirah. When the believers see all these hasanaat piled up on the Last Day, they will wish that none of their duas were answered in dunya and they could have everything for akhirah. SubhanAllah. :) So don’t hold back, make dua. *Side Note: I came across my du’a list from last year and SUBHANALLAH! My jaw dropped. All I could say was Allahu Akbar. When you raise your hands up to ask Allah and only Allah, there’s no way He will send your hands down empty. Remember that.*
  • No matter what you ask for, Allah can answer it! So ask for anything good in this dunya and for the akhirah. What do you want? What do you want to do? To be? Maybe you want to start a business, or travel, or be a righteous person, or get a new house (no riba of course), or get married, or please your parents, or get a good education, or have children, if you don’t have any, what kind of children do you want.., or get a job, or have more barakah in your rizq. Aisha (ra) would ask Allah for something as small as a shoelace!
  • Make du’a for the prisoners, the poor, the oppressed, those who are suffering, those with health issues, the deceased. And most of all, sometimes we get so caught up in duas that we forget to thank Allah azzawajal for His infinite blessing and His infinite mercy upon us. Thank Allah sincerely and watch your bounties grow. :)
  • Send Salawaat upon Rasulullah (saw), the Anbiya of Allah, the Tabi’een. Remember the righteous, the martyrs, the mujahideen, the ‘Ulema, the Shuyookh, and all the Muslimeen in every dua. If you can’t wet your tongue with water, wet your tongue with the dhikr of Allah.
  • Repent. Let’s sincerely ask Allah to forgive us for our sins and our many many many shortcommings. Allhumma Hasibni Hisabayaseera.
  • Make this Ramadan the ABSOLUTE BEST InshAllah. May Allah (swa) bless us in this Ramadan and make everything we do in this month a means for our purification and a means for us to achieve high statuses with Allah azzawajal. Ameen. And last but not least, pray that you make it to next Ramadan.
  • May Allah azzawajal make us among those who are shaken by ayaat of Qur’an, by the words of the Rasulullah (Salallahu Alayhi Wasallam). May we be protected from fruitless knowledge that has no benefit, or that sits in the back of our minds without action. May He protect us from hard hearts that remain unaware and from dua’s that are not responded to. Ameen.
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Feel free to pass this on if you benefited.

-Fi Amanillah-


11 Comments

  1. fizmanng says:

    JazakAllah JazakAllah JazakALlah Khair!
    Was just thinking of asking your permission when I saw the bottom post!

    Jzk!!!!!

  2. enduringthoughts says:

    Jazakillah khair for sharing this! I will definitely be sharing this article and coming back to it again.

  3. BrownS says:

    Subhanallah. Jazakillahu khair for taking notes and posting them.
    I’d practically forgotten about this ilminar and your post made me go back and revisit my own notes :) Fantastic reminder at a very good time alhamdulillah.

    I found his going into depth about the “dip” in the middle of Ramadan very useful.
    In fact he said one of the reasons that happens is because we we cut off our brothers and sisters in Islam and we invent imaginary reasons for not speaking to this person or that, or shying away from them, or feeling snubbed or whatever. Subhanallah I’d never connected the two. So the lesson was to forgive our brethren in Islam.

    Another powerful point I thought was his encouragement to stand for the full length of taraweeh prayers and to concentrate. And if we can’t concentrate or we can’t cry because we don’t understand the Arabic, imagine standing before Allah and look down at the place of sajdah. Allah is talking to us, and we don’t understand. Allah has guidance, it’s right there but we can’t access it. If there’s something to cry for, that’s it right there. Subhanallah. Those sincere tears will lead you to learning Arabic bi idhnillahi ta’ala. Subhanallah.

    Imam ibnul Qayyim said about standing in prayer (can apply this to taraweeh) that standing in front of your Lord happens twice: the first time when we pray. If we take care of standing while in this dunya, Allah makes the second standing on Yaumu al-Qiyamah easy, and conversely if we neglect standing in the here and now, standing then will be difficult. Subhanallah again.

    He had a lot of other good material on the dip which I found very useful mashaAllah. It really helped me because I had a major exam right after Ramadan and if I hadn’t watched out for the dip and taken counter-measures I would probably have fallen victim to it.

    May Allah SWT reward him and you, and a sincere ameen to all your ad’iya interspersed in your post. May Allah accept.

  4. mubasshir says:

    very valuable..nice 2 get such b’ful reminders in such a way,like th way u presents things.

  5. Cucumber says:

    Waiyyakum. :) I think this was one of the best ilminars/lectures I’ve listened to cuz it’s so practical alhumdulillah. I added some of my own tips in here and there but it’s mostly all from the shaykh.

    Those are beautiful reminders BrownS, JazakAllah Khair

    “If we take care of standing while in this dunya, Allah makes the second standing on Yaumu al-Qiyamah easy, and conversely if we neglect standing in the here and now, standing then will be difficult.” SubhanAllah!

  6. Huda M says:

    SubhanAllah, this article was such an eye-opener! Many of us, including myself, usually go through Ramadan complaining and obstaining from the obvious, external things (food, drink, etc), while at the same time indulging in backbiting, anger, and envy. InshaAllah, with Allah’s help, I will try to make this Ramadan one full of duas, dhikr, and constant recitation of the Qur’an. May Allah reward you for posting this enlightening piece and may He make you and all of the Muslims of those who practice this deen with consistency and sabr, ameen :)

    1. Cucumber says:

      Ameen! Glad it was beneficial :)

  7. adwin H says:

    salamualaykum sister~

    JazakAllah, i’m actually feeling weak inside here because i’m still adapting myself to a new environment and i can’t fit myself in my busy schedule yet.
    but alhamdulillah, when i read ”Don’t focus on whether you can do it or not, rather Focus on the Power of Allah (swa) to guide you to doing these things”, it really opened my eyes.

    and JazakAllah for the ramadan tips too. :)

    1. Cucumber says:

      Walaykum Assalam warahmatullah,

      You’re very welcome! Alhumdulillah, glad it was beneficial :)
      SubhanAllah, that quote really hit me too. Shaytan makes it so convenient for us to think we’re not capable of doing something that will please Allah, but if we are courageous enough to take the first step, Allah takes care of all that follows. :)

  8. muslimah93 says:

    Ameen!!!! Jazakillah for sharing theseeee beneficial notes with us!!!! Xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo. =))

  9. Farooq says:

    Assalamu ‘Alaikum Sister,

    First of all Jazakallahu Khairan Khatheeran wa Barakallahu Feekum.
    All the points are very useful. May Allah give us the tawfiq to act upon them.
    Just to keep up with your Qur’an reading goals, would you like to participate in the similar to the one held last year by MR.

    InshaAllah, I will share Ramadan Reminders in my blog… ~Fi Amanillah~

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